Thursday, August 14, 2014

Wednesday, August 13, 2014: A Peaceful Sign

Tommy again woke up around 4:00, and seemed very nervous or scared. She even hopped up on the bed near my head. It took some time, but with much petting and a quiet voice, she finally calmed down and just curled up near me.  It didn’t last long, but I’m glad she felt better. How do I know she was better? She pushed the bottle of water I keep on the nightstand down onto the floor to play with it.  Fortunately I always keep it capped, so no harm, no foul!
When we wake up Tommy seemed to be in a good mood. I was hoping that we would have another good day. All seemed to be going well, when as I was petting her, Tommy again tried to bite. Right after the attempt and my scolding, she crouched down on all fours which made me think that she knew she had done something wrong. I left the room as I always do and went to print the morning puzzles (a good excuse).
When I opened the door and returned to the living room, I found Tommy in a very submissive pose. She was on her side and kind of curled up, but it wasn’t her normal “sleeping in a ball” position. When I went to her I petted her and talked to her very quietly. There was no biting and at times she extended a paw to touch my other hand. I could tell that she knew her behavior was wrong and wanted to make amends. After a few minutes, she finally got up and all went back to normal.
Tommy was pretty quiet throughout the morning. I’m not sure if using the pheromone spray on the sofa to stop her scratching had any effect on her.  At one point she was laying in the dining room and as I walked by I got down and petted her to let her know that all was well. She started licking my fingers which usually leads to a bite, but this time after she finished licking my fingers she started grooming herself. I’m glad I trusted her this time and let her prove herself. She tried once more later, but I think it was my fault for not catching her signs about where she wanted (and didn’t want) to be petted.
I spent much of my day doing some organizing and trying to find my bank bag that has all my important documents. It took quite a while and of course Tommy wanted to help. She climbed around the closets and “helped” look in all the drawers. We found it; it had fallen behind something.  Tommy was pretty tired, so as I was finishing up, she took a nap in the sun by the study window.
This may seem a bit bizarre, but we’ve had relative peace for a few days now, and today my peace lily started unfolding a flower for the first time in four years. It’s a special plant to me as it was given to me by my local union when my father died. I thought I’d killed it when I went on vacation four years ago. I tried reviving it, but it didn’t come back and after cutting all the dead leaves off (which were the only leaves there were) I couldn’t bear to throw it out.  A month later just when I thought the soil had finally dried out, a shoot appeared.  It’s come back, but hadn’t flowered until now.  I guess it’s a sign that Tommy and I are finally settling in to a peaceful coexistence.
When I start transcribing my grandfather’s diary by dictating into the computer, Tommy decides that there’s be less noise in the closet and naps there. Most of the rest of the evening Tommy spends on the dining room chair, but expects attention (which she receives) whenever I come near. The day ends peacefully as we head to bed.

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